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How to Know Someone Loves You Back: 9 Ways to Find Out

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The realization of someone actually loving one back is a feeling everyone wants to have because it’s beautiful and comforting. When someone begins to love you back, you’ll know. It becomes palpable. The person either says it vocally or with actions. Love doesn’t hide; with time, it’ll speak. Love is patient, too. Sometimes a lot of factors can prevent a man from accepting love, but with time and temperance, the long-awaited will be reciprocated.

When you love someone, you choose to nurture the first stirrings of attraction, feeding those early feelings and strengthening them to weather the stressors to come. The work involved may not always feel easy. Yet many people find the reward—mutual, lasting love—well worth the investment.

People often say you’ll just know when someone loves you. There’s some truth to that, though it may not show up in the extravagant gestures you see in the media. As we continue in this article, we’ll be discussing ways to know someone loves you back.

9 Ways to Know Someone Loves You Back

1. They listen actively and remember small details

When someone is in love with you, every single word you say appears important to them. They pay rapt attention when you’re talking and just want to keep listening to you without interrupting. The more you talk, the more the love in their hearts increases. They just find it exciting to listen to you. What love can do!

When someone loves you, they’ll happily pay attention to what you’re saying, even if you’ve said it before. Active listening shows they love you and want to take note of your likes, dislikes, passions, etc.  You can tell someone is actively listening because they’ll make eye contact, lean in towards you, and nod along to show you that they’re paying attention.

Someone who loves you will do their best not to change the subject to something they want to talk about. They’ll hear you out, no matter what you need to say.

2. They accept your differences

True love accommodates. When someone loves you, they accept you for who you are. They don’t try so hard to change you against your will. They believe that with time, whatever needs to be adjusted will. They literally give you enough room to breathe and live in the fullness of yourself, loving you for all that you represent.

Your partner’s ability to accept and embrace those differences is a huge sign of their love for you; they’ll show interest in understanding your perspective and do their best to respect you. A loving partner will be happy to give you advice when you ask, but won’t force it on you or withhold affection until you agree with them.

Don’t be afraid to engage in a respectful debate with your partner. Debate can be a useful tool to learn about one another’s perspectives, so long as neither of you tries to make the other admit they’re wrong.

3. They’ll love to spend quality time with you

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Love makes partners want to be in each other’s space. Part of being in love is wanting to be around your partner often. If they truly love you, they’ll want to spend meaningful quality time with you—even when it’s impractical. This doesn’t mean they’ll want to be attached at the hip, but they’ll try to take as many opportunities as possible to see you. The longer you’re together, the more time they’ll want to spend with you.

So be on the watch! Love doesn’t mean you should be blind to visible signals of what love truly is or is not. Someone who truly loves you will want to spend time with you. There’s no two-way about it.

4. They help and support you.

Someone who loves you will be there through every up and down. They’ll want to make sure that your needs are met, meaning that they offer you physical help when you need it as well as emotional support. They’ll have your back when you need a ride to work, cheer you on when you need a few words of encouragement, and they’ll be ready to listen and empathize with you.

If they really love you, they’ll encourage you to achieve your goals or pursue your interests, even when they won’t gain anything from doing so.

Love is about being there for someone no matter what, accepting their positive and negative qualities, and sticking around during the good times and the bad.

5. They miss you when you’re apart.

Being missed is a sign that they can’t imagine their life without you. Does your partner often tell you they miss you after being apart? If you’re apart for even a few days, but they still text you, call you, or email you to let you know how much they miss you, chances are they love you. If you go on a two-week vacation and don’t hear a word from them, it may not be love.

Everyone’s communication style is different. They don’t have to call you constantly or blow up your inbox with texts; even a simple ‘Good morning!’, ‘When are you coming back’, or ‘Thinking of you’ text each day shows that you’re often on their mind. When someone truly loves you, you become consistent in their thoughts.

6. They feel free to discuss the future with you.

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Someone who truly loves you isn’t afraid of discussing the future with you. Mentioning future plans is a sign that you’re in their life to stay. If they really love you, then the idea of you being in their future is a given—not something they’d be undecided about. If your partner often talks to you about what you’re going to do together in the future, about what your lives will look like 1, 5, or even 10 years from now, then they’ve fallen in love with you.

They might bring up the day you met, your first phone call, and other memories they hold dear because they love you.

7. They introduce you to their loved ones.

When someone is in love with you, they feel very comfortable introducing you to every important member of their family and friend circle. They just want people to know about you and the joy you’ve brought them. But when you’re the one always requesting to know his dad or mom and he keeps procrastinating it for no reason, please watch out. It’s a clear symbol that they’re yet to really accept you.

If your partner starts dropping hints about you meeting his parents, just know that he can’t wait to take you as his. A committed partner knows what he’s doing, and I only engage any important figure in his life in a relationship that doesn’t have a future.

8. They can act naturally around you

Part of being in love is being completely open to the other person. If you find yourself seeing a whole different side of your partner that they don’t show the public, it could be love. For instance, if your partner is pretty serious or polite in public but becomes more goofy and silly when you’re alone, they’re opening up to you and showing you how comfortable you make them feel.

If the person shares their deepest emotions with you and is comfortable with it, that could be love. If they’re comfortable not looking perfect, tripping, or having food stuck in their teeth around you, that means they’re okay with letting you see every side of them.

9. They light up when you’re around.

When you step into where they are, they feel so excited and happy. They begin to act so happy and free beyond usual. Seeing you will feel like a breath of fresh air when someone loves you. If your partner has a bad day and yet still noticeably becomes happier when they see you, that’s a sign they truly love you. No matter what happens throughout their day, the sight of you or the sound of your voice is guaranteed to make them feel better—if only a little bit.

The next time they’re grumpy or have a bad day, see how they react in your presence. You might notice their eyes light up or soften, and they may start smiling if they were frowning before.

They’ll be positively giddy around you when they’re in a good mood! Your partner might seem hyper, excited, and on the verge of laughing for no reason whenever they’re around you. Love is indeed sweet when it’s from a genuine heart.


In conclusion, a loving partner will share your desire to strengthen your bonds and grow together. Relationship skills don’t come easily to everyone, though, and some people need a little extra support with learning how to express feelings in healthy ways. Romantic love can feel pretty fantastic. There’s a reason why love has featured as a central topic in so many stories throughout the centuries of human history. Still, love isn’t always wonderful. In real life, it’s often unpredictable, frustrating, or even painful.

While it certainly can offer plenty of rewards, these benefits don’t generally come without some dedicated effort and a willingness to accept some challenges as part of the process. Love is wonderful but unpredictable, and sometimes it’s not immediately obvious what your partner is thinking. Luckily for you, studying your partner’s behavior and how they talk to you can help you know whether you’re loved or not. This is to avoid any form of unexpected heartbreak.  Remember, ‘Love isn’t one-sided; it’s two-sided’.


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