Let’s picture this scenario.
You’ve finally asked the love of your life to become your girlfriend, and she accepted. The both of you are so in love; your relationship is going silky smooth, and you text now and then.
She knows you’re going out and coming in, and you know hers. She checks up on you, sending you sweet text messages between times, and you feel so blessed. But lately, you can’t help but notice a few changes.
Things are getting different, and her mode of texting has changed.
Are you afraid that she doesn’t love you anymore? Are you afraid that she’s beginning to lose interest in the relationship?
Well, sometimes it’s normal. A relationship may begin sweetly, but when sparks fly, they may not stay bright for too long; they may eventually be put out and die slowly.
A relationship can end at any time, especially when one partner is no longer interested.
In this case, when your text communication is going so well, you can begin to tell the signs that she’s not interested anymore through her texts. One way or another, her vibe and frequency decrease.
Signs Your Girlfriend Is Losing Interest Through Text: 10 possible signs through text
Several signs show your girlfriend is losing interest in you through text, with real-life scenarios to attest to.
1. She no longer texts frequently
One of the signs your girlfriend is losing interest in texting is if she no longer texts frequently, especially if she couldn’t do without texting you about random things.
How often she texts is a way to determine if she still puts you as a priority or not, because you would notice a shift and absence of her text messages.
Jake said, “My girlfriend was a text person. She rarely ever calls or communicates with calls except in official, formal matters. So when she didn’t text me for a whole day and called me first thing the next morning, I knew something was wrong.”
2. She no longer sends check-up texts
Your girlfriend may not be a texting type of person, yet you’ve become so used to her checking texts that pop up at random times during the day or at times when she’s far away from you.
She sends you sweet, thoughtful messages that show she’s thinking about you or just let you know she’s still there. Texts like, “Have you had lunch?” and “How’re you feeling after this morning?” etc
If she’s no longer interested in you, the texts you’ve always anticipated slowly die down or become less frequent.
3. She takes her time to reply
Your girlfriend might not necessarily be one to jump on texts and reply the second after you drop a text, but she doesn’t leave you unread for too long either. However, when it becomes seemingly obvious that she’s purposely ignoring your texts, she’ll take longer than usual to reply to a simple text.
Justin has never had reason to complain about his girlfriend’s behavior. That’s why this one came as a shock; he said, “No kidding, I was really worried.
I spent the whole day in anxiety, thinking that something bad had happened to my girlfriend. I called my friends, her friends, and everyone in our circle to make sure she was fine.
Why, she never took too long to reply to my texts; doing that for the first time made me so worried. It turns out that she was ignoring me for something I did. It was a punishment well served.”
4. She replies in one word
This is another sign that your girlfriend may be slowly losing interest in you. You send her an inquiry, “How are you?” normally, and she responds, “I’m chilling, and you?” Or “I’m rounding up a class,” or something that clearly states how or what she’s doing at the moment.
You’re so used to that style, so her one-word reply would throw you off guard. You’d start wondering what went wrong along the way.
5. She doesn’t inquire about you anymore
Fave and Dave have been dating long distance for a while since he got a job in another city. Fave would always inquire about his welfare and was almost like a distant personal assistant, reminding him of appointments and schedules, and he did the same.
This made their communication frequent, fun, and bearable. However, one day, Fave just stopped sending texts and ghosted him.
One clear sign of your girlfriend losing interest is when she doesn’t inquire about you, your well-being, or the general curiosity she shows regularly.
She no longer asks how your day went, how your project is coming along, if you bought the cream she recommended, whether you’ll be visiting your parents during your work leave, etc. It can be simply interpreted as a lack of interest.
6. She no longer uses your pet name in texts
Pet names are one of the things that spice up a relationship. They communicate the feelings of one person by name. Every partner usually has a pet name they call their spouse.
So if, as a boyfriend, you notice that she has stopped using the pet name both in calls and texts, there’s something strange going on.
7. She doesn’t view or reply to your WhatsApp status
When your girlfriend doesn’t view or comment on your WhatsApp status anymore, it means she may be slowly losing interest in you.
From personal experience, which many people can attest to, people who view your WhatsApp status and comment on or are interested in you. WhatsApp is a place where people share bits of personal information and curious users engage with those they are interested in.
Therefore, if she stops viewing your status or commenting on your posts, she isn’t as curious about you.
8. She rarely compliments you
Giving a compliment to one’s spouse or partner is a sign of attentiveness because one has to pay a compliment based on what they see or notice.
Moreover, compliments are expected to go around in a relationship. Both partners thrive on giving and receiving compliments regularly.
Your girlfriend gives you compliments with reckless abandon, but you’ve noticed that the number of times she compliments you has reduced. She’s no longer paying attention to you and is slowly losing interest.
9. She cancels plans through text
The both of you usually plan your outing together and then prepare for it, respectively. But you’ve begun noticing that she cancels plans at the last minute by sending texts.
Jonah shares his experience: “My girlfriend’s actions started getting incessant and disturbing. We’ve always planned our outings with room for rescheduling if the other person is busy.
But she just canceled at the last minute with a text like, “I can’t make it, sorry.” I overlooked it at first; maybe she had something really important to take care of, but then it began getting more frequent without plans for rescheduling, and I became worried if I was doing something wrong or if she was no longer interested in our outings. I wish she’d just come upfront and tell me what the problem is when I finally confront her about it.”
10. She misses your calls and texts instead
This is a huge sign that your girlfriend is losing interest and a red flag too. When you call someone and the person misses it, it’s right to call back to inquire about the call.
Not everyone loves calls; that’s true, but they shouldn’t be so frequent that they become suspicious. If she constantly texts you after missing your calls and keeps missing your calls, it’s a sign that she is ignoring you, and you have to call her out on it.
11. She doesn’t share big news with you
You were always the first to know if something big happened in her life. She is usually so excited to tell you about her day and what she’s up to. Your phone pings every moment, and you get excited that she’s about to share something with you.
However, when the frequency of such texts has reduced and you have to probe before she tells you what she’s been up to, she’s losing interest in you.
Conclusion
It is important to understand that these signs do not mean that she doesn’t love you anymore or that she is no longer interested in the relationship, so don’t jump to conclusions.
She may be struggling with something, and it’s affecting the relationship through proximity. First, you have to understand why she is losing interest and acting the way she does.
Have a heart-to-heart talk with her so she can open it up to you, whether she is worried, bored, depressed, or annoyed. She’ll also tell you if she has cold feet and isn’t interested in you anymore.
This will save you from the trouble of worrying if she has lost feelings for you or not. Then you can now decide how to talk about her confession in a way that will benefit both of you.
