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12 Noticeable Signs Your Ex is Pretending to be Over You

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When partners break up, it is always hard for them to be over each other. None of them would want to admit to each other that they have not completely moved on. This is why they would rather pretend to be over you.

I know people break up for many reasons and it’s normal for exes not to immediately be over each other after a breakup. These are people who used to be very close and have probably spent a lot of their time together. But what happens since people hate to admit they are not over their ex? How do you know if your ex is not over you ? This article has all the answers to your question, as we shall discuss signs your ex is pretending to be over you in detail.

Signs Your Ex is Pretending to be Over You

1. They contact you often

One of the sure signs that your ex is pretending to be over you is that they still talk to you. They might act like they are just trying to check up on you and not show any form of affection towards you but deep down, they are not completely over you because an ex who is completely over you won’t even care to talk to you or reach out to you. Some of them might even block your number but if they still contact you often, it’s one of the signs your ex is pretending to be over you.

2. They try to make you feel jealous

Another thing an ex who is not completely over you does is to make you jealous. There are different ways they can do this. They can start uploading pictures of someone of the opposite sex on their social media, just to let you think they have moved on and that they are over you. When this happens, know that he is trying to find out if you’ll react to it or act like you don’t care.

3. They constantly bring back old memories

When you have an ex who reminds you of the good memories you have shared together in the past, that’s one of the signs your ex is not over you. This is why he would deliberately come up with topics that would make you think you should give your relationship another chance.

They would talk about the fun and interesting things you did together and how you used to be good lovers. They do this with the hope that they still have a chance with you.

4. They try to blame you for the breakup

Another thing you’d notice when an ex is not over you is that they’d try to let you know it was not their fault that they broke up with you. Even when you clearly know it was their fault, they wouldn’t want to own up to it because they feel it’s the safest way for them to be accepted by you. Also, they might try to resolve the misunderstanding or the reason why the relationship ended. The reason they are making an effort to make sure that whatever misunderstanding you have is settled is because they still have feelings for you.

5. They tell you how much they miss you

There is a high chance that an ex who tells you how much he or she misses you is not over you. It means that you are still on their mind and they still care about you. They are finding it very hard to move on without you. They might sound unserious by saying it like a joke but that’s because they don’t want to sound emotional because they don’t want to appear like they are not over you.

6. They go out a lot

Do you know that when your ex goes out a lot after breakup, it could be part of the signs your ex is pretending to be over you. Especially if they are not the type who loves to go out before, if they suddenly start going out after the breakup, it’s because being alone will start making them think of you and they feel going out is one of the things that can help them get over you.

7. They try to flirt with you

When your ex is not over you, they constantly start flirting with you, sometimes they might act like you never broke up with them. This attitude can be confusing as it sends a mixed signal and you might start wondering what they might be up to. If this happens, then you should know that it’s one of the signs your ex is pretending to be over you.

8. You meet them everywhere you go

Do you think it is a coincidence that you meet them almost everywhere you go ? Maybe, but in most cases, when your ex is not over you, they seem to be everywhere you go. They might be stalking you because they want to know what you are up to.

It’s easy for them to do this because they know the places you visit often. Even though they might not openly admit that they are not over you, the moment your ex seems to be investing so much time to be in places you are, then that is one of the signs your ex is pretending to be over you

9. They talk to your friends and family

Sometimes your ex might not directly ask you about your wellbeing or even check up on you but you’d be surprised that they know everything going on in your life and that’s because they still talk to your family and friends. They ask them about your wellbeing and what you are up to. Yes your ex might not be talking to you but if they talk to your friends and family, there is a high chance that they are not over you.

10. They keep checking your social media stories

Does your ex check your social media stories each time you post ? They will never miss any of your stories. It looks like someone is so interested in your life. Even if they don’t leave any reaction on any of your posts. Its a sign that they are not over you.

11. They get jealous when you are with someone else

It’s possible that you might have moved on while your ex is still struggling and finding it hard to move on or get over you. If you eventually decide to be in a relationship with someone else, or maybe they find out that you are going out with someone else, they will get jealous. You might notice that they dislike or have a subtle hatred towards your partner. They might go as far as trying to sabotage them. You can’t really blame them for being like this; it’s because they are not over you.

12.  They drunk call you

Does your ex call you drunk and start to sound emotional whenever they call? They might begin to tell you how much they miss you, how they wish you were with them and other emotional things. Even though they are drunk while saying all of these, it might appear like they are under the influence of alcohol. The truth is, they are not over you yet, so if your ex drunk calls you, it’s one of the signs your ex is not over you.


A lot of times, you might really think that your ex is totally over you because they are good at masking their feelings and acting like they are fine with the breakup. These is why we identified some signs your ex is pretending to be over you.

Dealing with breakup is not easy and it might take time to totally heal from the emotional hurt caused by breakup and get over an ex. This is a normal feeling and it’s okay for anyone to feel this way. All they need to completely heal is time.

You might not feel comfortable with certain behaviors shown by your ex, such as constantly being monitored, blaming you for the breakup, sabotaging your new partner, etc. In all of these, you need to understand that they are going through a phase and all they need to heal is time.


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