What is the no contact rule about? The no contact rule simply means cutting off all forms of communication so that both parties in a relationship have the opportunity to reassess themselves, figure out what went wrong, decide if or not they need to get back together, and analyze the difference your absence makes to your partner after a breakup.
Actually, research shows that couples decide to cut off all forms of contact when the relationship has fallen apart and they want to know where they stand. So, it’s no news that the no-contact rule is a powerful tool and propelling strategy to fuel your relationship when it’s on the verge of breakdown.
However, this rule leaves a lot of questions and doubts in your mind. You may be left wondering if no contact will work if she’s lost her feelings for you.
As usual, answers come in two ways, as I believe there are two perspectives on things. A straightforward yes or no may not fit everyone’s definition of the situation. But before any conclusion is drawn, first come to terms with what prompted you or her to initiate the no-contact rule.
It is a yes; if she has lost feelings for you, no contact may not work because observing the rule is now useless. It is a no if she may have lost feelings for you yet she’s unsure, and during the no contact period, they get rekindled because she has time to reassess her feelings and opinions about you.
What you’re now left to do is check out the signs that the no-contact rule is working for you or the signs that the no-contact rule is working against you.
The saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder” is really popular and is certainly the theme song for the no-contact rule.
It’s a principle stating that when lovers stay apart for a period of time, their once-cold love reignites and burns stronger. While many have argued about this notion, many others have found it to be true and harnessed it to their benefit.
But first, you should understand that men and women deal with breakups differently, especially if you were the one who initiated the breakup.
Research shows that according to female psychology, after a breakup, she’s more likely to have a more intense emotional response than you. There are stages she goes through that you are not aware of, and she needs time to process her own feelings while dealing with hurt.
During that period, there are two traits she exhibits. The first one is that of fearful withdrawal, a sign that she is unsure of getting attached to you again.
The other is a permanent withdrawal; she clearly does not want to be with you again. This way, you know she has lost her feelings for you.
If she’s the one who initiated the no-contact period, you have to let her go for the time being and give her space to form her own opinion. You have to cease being clingy and stubborn because you give her the vibe of someone who is childish and reduce your worth in her eyes.
However, if you take a few steps backward and let her come to terms with her own decision, you have moved yourself up in her ladder of value. And she may be willing to hear from you again. At this point, do not waste the opportunity to rekindle the glow of your relationship.
Second-guessing yourself is normal for you because it is also normal for her to choose to move on within a short period of your breakup. So it is one thing to wait for her to come running back to you, and it is another thing to keep wondering if she has lost feelings for you and all your efforts will turn futile. Though there is no guarantee that these efforts will turn out successful, there is no harm in trying, right?
This article is here to help you get a few answers to your most pressing question on the issue at hand, which is “Will no contact work if she lost feelings?”.
It is important that you notice these signs: the one that shows she may still entertain the thought of being together and the one that shows that she no longer has feelings for you.
Signs She Still Has Feelings For You
SIGN 1: She is indecisive and thinks it’s a sign she has lost feelings for you
Well, if that’s the case, you will have to put on your patient robe and let the no contact rule do its work, because it will work. This is because sometimes she might say she’s no longer feeling you when she’s just unsure.
This factor depends on how strong your relationship was before the breakup, so if she’s just scared, it gives her time and space to reassure herself that it doesn’t have to be over. Plus, when you cease hovering around her, she will reconsider the relationship.
There, no contact worked because she still has feelings for you but just needed that space for the time being.
Sign 2: She realizes you’ve been working on yourself
I’ve stated this before, but I will do so again because this point can’t be overemphasized.
Try to work on yourself during the no-contact period. Trust me, that time apart will help you as much as it will help her. Why did you break up? Was it yours or her fault? What are you doing to get better at your dating game? Are you willing to be with her again? Are you ready to become a better partner?
All these are questions you have to answer for yourself if you really want to come to terms with her.
You should also take her feelings into consideration. Does she want to get back with me? Will she really forgive me?
It shows that you are not the same person she left if you take this time to work on yourself. She will definitely notice and feel like the whole thing was a mistake, and you both have had time to deal with your baggage personally.
Signs She No Longer Has Feelings For You
 SIGN 1: She has cut off all forms of communication, even after the no contact period
Will no contact work if she lost feelings for you? The answer is no. If the relationship was toxic, you don’t expect her to just put everything behind her like that. The anger and pain will first move her to stop contacting you; subsequently, her feelings begin to fade, and she finally cuts off all contact with you.
As much as distance helps the heart grow fonder, it also helps feelings change, for better or for worse. In this case, she has lost feelings for you, so the no contact rule is hereby useless.
SIGN 2: She now has a new focus and priority
Will the no-contact work if she lost feelings? No!
The no-contact rule won’t work if she has already moved on. Maybe she’s in a new relationship, or she just decided to focus on her career. It shows that she has gotten past the first few stages of post-breakup feelings and is ready to get her life back on track.
All these come after her intense grief has worn off. She has reflected deeply enough and come to terms with her situation more rationally. The no-contact period helps her refocus; she spends less time thinking about you and more time thinking about herself and her future, so moving on becomes easy for her.
At this stage, you need not ask if the no contact rule will work because, clearly, she has lost feelings for you.
We’ve gone over the two main stages of post-breakup feelings women have, and this has shown you that the no contact rule will not work if she loses feelings.
However, I will leave a little tip for you on women’s psychology.
In as much as the no contact rule is about not communicating with each other, numerous studies have shown that women want to be pursued, even if they’re the ones who initiated the breakup. So if you feel that she still has feelings for you and maybe she’s just hurt by something you did, give her a few weeks to go over it, then be the first to reach out. Offer an apology and explain how much you miss her. You will see how much good that will bring you.
The only exception is if you’ve seen clearly that she is no longer interested or she has strongly told you not to contact her ever again, then you leave her be. She has her reasons for that.
In conclusion, breakups are challenging, and the no contact rules are to help you cope with them. Even if whatever happens during the no-contact period may not be to your advantage, you should learn from it and avoid making the same mistake in your next relationship.
Take your time to work on yourself, and move on if she has lost feelings for you.
